Potatoes gonna Potate (a note on criticism).


"Insecurity is an ugly thing. It makes you hate people you don’t even know."

I thought long and hard before writing this post, as; A) I’m not the most eloquent of writers and sometimes my thoughts tend to go all over the place and B) I didn’t want this to look like an ‘Oh woe is me, someone’s being mean’-type piece. However there comes a time when such things need to be addressed, and there’s only so much one can take before they reach a boiling point.

I, much like most (if not all bloggers and vloggers), are often of the receiving end of criticism, hate-mail, negative comments, whatever have you. It comes with the gig, we expect it and often times it’s not and should not be a mahoosive deal, because #fuckthehaters. There comes a time however, when enough becomes enough. In my case, I normally get spiteful/hateful messages 2/3 times every couple of days via email, blog comments and tumblr comments, which is slightly baffling to me because in the ring of plus size blogging, I’m still a small fish, but that’s neither here nor there. Over the past year and a half, I have particularly received comments regarding my race, and my so-called ‘imitation’ of current plus size bloggers.

While I appreciate and take on board all comments including criticism (I wholeheartedly welcome it as it helps me improve my blog!), I do think that people need to establish the difference between constructive criticism, and being damn right rude and nasty. Constructive criticism is designed to point out mistakes, yet also show where certain areas can be improved; it should be used as useful feedback that can help you improve yourself, rather than put you down.

 I recently received a very hateful email which spoke about myself and other black bloggers not being able to achieve the same amount of exposure as white bloggers in the UK. The tone in which she wrote the email was horrible and even racist; however there are tones of that comment that do have some truth to it. I do believe that there should be more UK exposure of plus size bloggers of ethnic origin, whether it be black, Asian, mixed race etc in order for everyone (as well as consumers) to feel fairly represented. Now, if the person behind the email had left the comment like that, it would have been fine. But to insult my physical features and be subtly racist about the issue is frankly, taking the piss.

I understand that I will not be everyone’s cup of tea, but I do wish that these people would stop and think things through thoroughly because they hit send proceed to mess someone’s day up. While I am used to trolls, it still hurts. Up until a year ago, I had never previously shown a full body photo of me online as I had virtually no confidence and my self-esteem was piss poor; self love/body confidence issues that I’m still trying to deal with today. It takes a lot for me to post photos of myself for everyone to see and while I expect some backlash, it’s still pretty hurtful to receive such comments, especially those dealing with race and my ‘alleged; copying of other bloggers, which is complete rubbish.  

I’d also like to take this time to thank everyone who commented on IG and Twitter with their words of support. I was honestly overwhelmed with the amount of responses I have received as like I said above, my blog isn’t that well known. I thank each and every one of you all with your kind words, it has really made me feel quite emotional and has only spurred me to continue blogging and not to give up on something that I am incredibly passionate about!  Thank you also to all the fellow bloggers who sent in kind comments too! Within the plus size blog world there are times when I do feel a bit alone as the community can sometimes feel a bit cliqued, however the support has been overwhelming today, thank you!

There are a few thoughts that I could add to this post, however I’ve suddenly become aware of the length and I’m at work while typing this (bleugh), so..

This’ll be the last time I address topics of this nature on here as I only want positive vibes!  As a wise prophet once proclaimed, ‘(we)…don’t need no hateration or holleration in this dancery’*.

*Mary J Blige – Dance for Me (song’s a classic!).

Current Spring Wishlist #1

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I don't know about you guys but i'm completely over Winter now. I'm tired of Parka coats, ankle boots and jumpers. I'm looking forward to my crop tops, FINALLY (hopefully) going sleeveless for the first time and just general sunshine! Until then however, these are the current items that I am lusting over; pieces that I feel are perfect for the Winter-ish/Spring transition. I especially have my eye on the lumberjack maxi shirt; can you imagine that with some skinny ripped jeans, a logo tee and boots? YASSSSSSSSSSSSSS!!!

What do you guys think?


Don't Let Your Edges Get Snatched.

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No edges.

Two words that strike fear into the hearts of black women world wide. A barren wasteland of fail. Having no edges (or hairline) can arise by maintaining a bad hair care regimen; tight braids or weaves that pull on the delicate hair follicles, lack of moisture or Beyonce releasing a random album with no pre-warning (see: the Surprise Beyonce Album Edge Snatching Debacle of 2013).

I for one have always been on high alert when it comes to my hairline; I have more forehead than I already need so the prospect of my hairline thinning was not something I would ever leave to chance. Luckily for me, my edges have always been pretty full and glorious and while wearing braids for the better part of 3 years, I made sure to maintain and hydrate this area by using castor oil twice a week. However I noticed upon chemically relaxing my hair that my hairline towards the right side of my head was beginning to thin.


Enter Shea Moisture's Strengthen, Grow and Restore Edge Treatment. Containing hair growth-friendly Castor oil, as well as shea butter for moisture and peppermint for scalp stimulation (which also helps hair grow as it stimulates the blood vessels), the Thick, egg shell coloured product works as a styling gel that can be used every day to tame flyaway hairs, as well as helping to promote growth by strengthening and conditioning the hair. 

The gel is suitable for those with chemically relaxed/processed hair, coloured hair and heat styled hair. All you need is a small dab along the hairline, along with the ends of the hair if needed, create your chosen hairstyle and you're good to go. I've been using this for about two weeks now and I can honestly say that I've seen a slight difference where my edges are concerned. I'm gradually beginning to see the regrowth of sparse hairs which is amazing and my hairline in general looks a lot healthier and sleeker due to the gel. You can use the gel everyday, however I don't as the consistency is a bit on the thick side and I don't like the feeling of weighing my hair down, therefore I tend to only use it twice to three times a week.

I've always been a HUGE fan of the Shea Moisture products (see my past reviews here and here); the products overall have always agreed with my hair and I love the natural ingredients included into each product and if past reviews are anything to go by, I have my own lil Shea Moisture shop of products in no time!

Shea Moisture Strengthen, Grow and Restore Edge Treatment available here.


ALL THE BLUSHES: Makeup Revolution Sugar & Spice Blush Palette


Hey hey gorgeous people and Happy Valentines day! Today I thought I'd quickly talk about this gem that I've had on my wishlist since January; the Makeup Revolution Sugar & Spice Blush Palette.
Upon buying this, I noticed that the colours are far lighter than the photo shown on the website; not that I'm complaining however, as the colours are pretty awesome.


The palette contains eight shades consisting of matte and shimmer blushes, one baked blusher and one baked highlighter. Like nearly all the MR products I have tried, the shades are bursting with pigment and have a lovely, fine texture; what's not to love?
I mostly prefer the bottom set of the palette as the colours are a tad deeper and therefore suit my skintone a bit better, however all the tones are mega-wearable. 


I absolutely adore baked pigments, so the baked blusher + highlighters are a dream to work with. They blend in effortlessly and have a staying power of about 6 hours which is pretty decent. The champagne tone of the highlighter is a bit too light for my dark skin so I do sometimes mix it with another golden-toned highlighter that I have. You're literally spoiled for choice if you're after some pretty pink blushes!

Ashley Graham x Navabi Lingerie


I was meaning to hold this review off until I went on holiday next month, but this set is just too pretty to pass up, so you're getting it now and just in time for a little Valentines' Day inspiration! Now, this post will probably be a bit of a long 'un, so make yourself comfortable. :) 

MAC MSF Dupe? Makeup Revolution Vivid Baked Bronzer: Fame


Yes people, we have another Makeup Revolution post and frankly I couldn't wait to talk about this one because it's so bloody gorgeous! Today we have the Vivid Baked Bronzer in Fame (£4.00) which is one of four baked bronzer shades. Bronzers are the new guys on the block within my makeup arsenal; at the moment I generally use them to highlight and to add depth within the contours of my face. Please believe however, that I will be using the hell out of these babies come Summer! 

So, onto the bronzer. Let's just get the aesthetics out of the way; just look at it. Isn't it just gorgeous?! See how is shimmers. 'Fame' is a highly pigmented copper with intertwining golden flecks, encased within a plastic spherical case. While the powder doesn't feel as finely milled as I would like, it is far from chalky and has a great colour payoff when applied. A suggested use for this bronzer is to use a wet brush upon application as it makes for a more vivid look and I can attest to this; the pigmentation appears to be a lot bolder using a wet brush and reminds me of MAC's Gold Deposit. Both are deeply pigmented with a lot of colour payoff and I think would be an incredible colour for people with darker skin as I find it brings out a lot of warm undertones. 


I was pleased to discover that the formula blends into the skin easily without me looking like a disco ball, which is always a plus. I think this would be a product that suits all skin tones and an all round great bronzing (or even highlighting!) powder!

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